Gosh its been a long long time since I've blogged here.
In the midst of my study break (a rather unproductive one), I have been plagued by various thoughts regarding girls and self-esteem in this time and age.

Guys, you may think this statement is unfair to you.
(and rightly so, given that I am not a guy)
but I am going to be be brutally honestly here (because each is entitled to his own opinion yeah?)
I believe that the main reason girls have such low self-esteem is because of you.


So many beautiful girls I know don't think they look good enough.

And why so?



Because there is all this insane pressure from everyone (but especially guys) to look good 24/7.
To have big boobs, flat stomach and long, toned legs.
To have 34-24-36 statistics.
To always be immaculately groomed.
To look like a Victoria's Secret model.
I could go on.


Some guys may argue that it is the media's fault for constantly portraying images of what they think women 'should be'. No doubt that the media plays a big role in doing so. I am completely certain that the self-esteem of an average woman has dropped significantly over the past 100 years due to the powerful influence of the media.
Nevertheless, I am not shifting the blame away from the guys.




Some of you may be oblivious to this, I am aware.
But do realize that your little comments along the way do affect the way we think.
So many times have we heard comments that go from:

'Look at her face! She should be walking around with a paper bag'
to
'Wow. Check out her legs. What I would give to....'
to
'Who invited the whale along?'





Are you so dumb as to think that none of these words matter to girls?



Both comments, as different as they both are, each take a stab at our self-esteem even though they may not be directed at us.
We wonder if we are prettier than paper-bag-girl.
We plead desperately to God to give us legs like the leggy-girl.
We diet/puke/starve ourselves so we won't ever be likened to a 'whale'.
No wonder no girl is ever satisfied with the way they look



I've been a witness to far too many situations where guys take a stab at a girl for not being anywhere near the 'ideal/perfect woman'.
It irks me every single time.
At times, I am even tempted to chant an African curse on those guys so that they will wake up one morning as an obese girl with bad acne.
(HA!!!! NOT SO JUDGMENTAL NOW ARE YOU!?)



I ask the question, who gives guys the right to judge each girl that walks by?
Although yes, I do understand that guys are made visual; hence their comments on what they first see.

But is it so hard to restrain their comments?
To realize that every word that flows from their mouths is a stab at a girl they love
(whether its a sister, girlfriend or friend)





The ironic thing is that after all they say and all they do,
they get frustrated at us girls for having such a low self-esteem.

It's laughable.





They make fun of the way we look ('but I didn't mean it!')
and then the next minute they say 'Why are you so insecure??'

REALLY, guys.
Is it our fault that we feel that way?
When we are daily being (subconciously I presume) compared to the likes of Angelina Jolie, Scarlett Johanssen, Jessica Alba.
Geez, guys.
Who do you think you are?
Lol.



A friend once told me that her boyfriend was never satisfied with how she looked.
Her boobs were too small.
Her thighs were too big.
Her arms were too flabby.

Wave after wave of depression crashed over her
as she struggled to lose more and more weight.
She lost up to 18kgs to please her boyfriend.
At which point he told her that her boobs were now non-existant.


I was then very tempted to do another African curse chanting thingi (not that I know how to) on that very boyfriend.





An honest guy once admitted on MySpace:
'We make girls feel like they have to be perfect...'



How very true.




Anyway, this is nowhere near the end of my rant.
But I really need to get back to doing some work.


Talk soon!
 
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Disclaimer: This has nothing to do with my boyfriend and my self-esteem. I think he's perfect and nothing like those jerks I mentioned up there. Hehe.









 

Everyone has been posting a 'Goodbye 2008, Hello 2009' post;
so much so that I feel obligated in some way to do so -
although to be honest, an update has been long overdue (as always. SIGH)

And yes! Before I go into my breakdown of 2008, I must at least summarize how Battlegrounds in Sydney went!
57 crews were there from all over Austral-Asia;
which was insane because that meant that the audience/judges had to sit through 57 3-minute performances - even I got a little tired after about 10. Haha. But that being said, the whole experience was one SO memorable and one of the many highlights of my year.
To cut a long story short, we placed 12th in the Aus division and 21st in the Austral-Asian division.
So not TOO bad although I think the rest of the crew expected to do better.
Lol.



 
at circularquay!
Kody's freeze messing up our letters. lol


with Msian crew - Elecoldxhot


 




XCITE 2008

SO YES. Although I'm sure that wasn't quite the update about Battlegrounds that u expected (and one that does not do the whole experience any justice), I'm sure it will suffice - for the time being anyway! I'm a busy woman, not that much time to blog. It just so happens that I am feeling very sick atm and have nothing else to do while resting at home =P



So. What was 2008 for me?


Despite a few bumps along the way, it was my best year yet.
That's all I can say.

So many highlights of this year.
Dance and him being the 2 major ones.
The two things I love the most.
=)


So goodbye 2008, and hello 2009!
May THIS year be our best one ever.

 
 

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I can't believe December is finally here!
It feels like yesterday that XCITE won the Groove title of state champs, when in fact that was 6 months ago.
And tomorrow the crew will finally be flying off to Sydney to compete in Battlegrounds 2008.


This week has been one of immense pressure, stress, and tension but who can blame anyone? I'd be worried if we weren't pushing ourselves this last week with practices every night. To be honest, I'm not really sure what to expect from this humongous competition; all I know is that this is truly a once in a lifetime opportunity and I want to enjoy it with all my heart. How often does one get to compete in an international hiphop dance competition anyway? These days will be soon gone and I want to have something to show to my kids to prove that their mummy was cool. HAHAHA. Although hip-hop to them will probably be like disco to us by then. SIGH.


I'm excited because I'm just imagining the whole setup in the Sydney Olympic Park, the crowd, the atmosphere, the dancers - the top of the top from all over the world. And I can gurantee you that on the day itself, I will be mass msging alot of you in an attempt to calm my nerves although to be honest, only one person would probably be able to do that - and I wish with all my heart that my babe was coming with us . Sigh.



Anyway. The crew is flying off tomorrow on the 6am flight to Sydney and competing on the 7th (Sunday)
so wish us all luck and keep us in prayers -
that there'll be no major stuff ups (or bloody wardrobe malfunctions) and that we'll do our best .
Hehe.


Will update once I'm back!
GO XCITE!

Love
Fran















XCITE (Battlegrounds 2008 crew): David Ash Jaz Rudy Luana Daniel Fran Ivy Justin Nix Kody


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Happy 22nd Birthday, babe! =)
To my best friend, soulmate and so much more...
I thank God for you everyday.
I love you..



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Here we go.
Exams start tomorrow and end on Thursday.
All squashed together.
GAH.



Why I'm studying law, is beyond me.

*forces self to see flashing $$$ signs all over her head*


GRRR.






Anyway. Aside from exams, I've been wondering...

WHAT IS THE FASTEST WAY TO GET SKINNY?!


I swear, I don't mind being a stick; just tell me already! LOL.
How do I stop craving bubble tea, chocolate, and all those fatty foods?
How do I get nice skinny legs and a smaller butt?
Naturally skinny girls who can eat whatever they want, should be hunted own by wild dogs when they complain that they've gained weight or are 'fat'.
*punches*


Summer is coming. Aka, going to the beach.
Hence, the random ranting.



[prays]: God, take control of my week, as I sit for these coming exams.
I know I haven't worked as hard as I could have but please help me focus and do my best for YOUR glory.
Please help all those stuck up, smart ass students in Evidence, Admin and Property screw up big time so that I will be scaled up.
Thank you..
Oh and please help me lose 5kgs this coming week.
I want to go to the beach the coming weekend.
You could make everyone else fat, so that I would look skinny in comparison but I reckon a lot less work is needed to just help me lose 5kgs 7kgs 10kgs.

Thank you, Lord!
I know You are capable of doing the impossible.


AMEN.



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