Gosh its been a long long time since I've blogged here.
In the midst of my study break (a rather unproductive one), I have been plagued by various thoughts regarding girls and self-esteem in this time and age.

Guys, you may think this statement is unfair to you.
(and rightly so, given that I am not a guy)
but I am going to be be brutally honestly here (because each is entitled to his own opinion yeah?)
I believe that the main reason girls have such low self-esteem is because of you.


So many beautiful girls I know don't think they look good enough.

And why so?



Because there is all this insane pressure from everyone (but especially guys) to look good 24/7.
To have big boobs, flat stomach and long, toned legs.
To have 34-24-36 statistics.
To always be immaculately groomed.
To look like a Victoria's Secret model.
I could go on.


Some guys may argue that it is the media's fault for constantly portraying images of what they think women 'should be'. No doubt that the media plays a big role in doing so. I am completely certain that the self-esteem of an average woman has dropped significantly over the past 100 years due to the powerful influence of the media.
Nevertheless, I am not shifting the blame away from the guys.




Some of you may be oblivious to this, I am aware.
But do realize that your little comments along the way do affect the way we think.
So many times have we heard comments that go from:

'Look at her face! She should be walking around with a paper bag'
to
'Wow. Check out her legs. What I would give to....'
to
'Who invited the whale along?'





Are you so dumb as to think that none of these words matter to girls?



Both comments, as different as they both are, each take a stab at our self-esteem even though they may not be directed at us.
We wonder if we are prettier than paper-bag-girl.
We plead desperately to God to give us legs like the leggy-girl.
We diet/puke/starve ourselves so we won't ever be likened to a 'whale'.
No wonder no girl is ever satisfied with the way they look



I've been a witness to far too many situations where guys take a stab at a girl for not being anywhere near the 'ideal/perfect woman'.
It irks me every single time.
At times, I am even tempted to chant an African curse on those guys so that they will wake up one morning as an obese girl with bad acne.
(HA!!!! NOT SO JUDGMENTAL NOW ARE YOU!?)



I ask the question, who gives guys the right to judge each girl that walks by?
Although yes, I do understand that guys are made visual; hence their comments on what they first see.

But is it so hard to restrain their comments?
To realize that every word that flows from their mouths is a stab at a girl they love
(whether its a sister, girlfriend or friend)





The ironic thing is that after all they say and all they do,
they get frustrated at us girls for having such a low self-esteem.

It's laughable.





They make fun of the way we look ('but I didn't mean it!')
and then the next minute they say 'Why are you so insecure??'

REALLY, guys.
Is it our fault that we feel that way?
When we are daily being (subconciously I presume) compared to the likes of Angelina Jolie, Scarlett Johanssen, Jessica Alba.
Geez, guys.
Who do you think you are?
Lol.



A friend once told me that her boyfriend was never satisfied with how she looked.
Her boobs were too small.
Her thighs were too big.
Her arms were too flabby.

Wave after wave of depression crashed over her
as she struggled to lose more and more weight.
She lost up to 18kgs to please her boyfriend.
At which point he told her that her boobs were now non-existant.


I was then very tempted to do another African curse chanting thingi (not that I know how to) on that very boyfriend.





An honest guy once admitted on MySpace:
'We make girls feel like they have to be perfect...'



How very true.




Anyway, this is nowhere near the end of my rant.
But I really need to get back to doing some work.


Talk soon!
 
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Disclaimer: This has nothing to do with my boyfriend and my self-esteem. I think he's perfect and nothing like those jerks I mentioned up there. Hehe.